Are you on your way to SUCCESS?

Find out if you’re on the way to success by asking yourself the questions below.

Each answer gets more challenging as you go. Ready? Write down your answers and check how well they align with the behavior of successful people. You just might be might be on the right track.

  1. Do I seek comfort -or- Do I seek discomfort?
  2. Do I prefer entertainment -or- Do I prefer education?
  3. Do I want to be successful – or – Do I aspire to be successful?
  4. Is it my dream to be successful – or – Is it my goal to be successful?
  5. Am I afraid to fail now  – or – Am I afraid to fail later?
  6. Do I learn -or- Do I apply?
  7. Am I reactive  – or –  Am I proactive?
  8. Do I see problems – or – Do I see opportunities?
  9. Do I have an external locus of control -or- Do I have an internal locus of control?

1. Do I seek COMFORT or Do I seek DISCOMFORT?

Unfortunately, success is not something that falls into your lap while lounging in a recliner. If you think you can achieve success while living a life of ease and comfort, then you have a long road ahead of you. For many, the trade off is worth it. As humans, we are naturally inclined to take the path of least resistance – but taking this route does not lead to success.

Correct Answer: Seek Discomfort

To become successful you have to fight the temptation of leisure. You have to force yourself into uncomfortable situations. You have to seek discomfort. Being comfortable should serve as a red flag that you’re no longer moving forward.

Ok, I know it takes hard work to become successful, but there has to be some leisure time occasionally…

True, but what you do in your leisure time makes a pretty big difference:

2. Do I prefer ENTERTAINMENT or Do I prefer EDUCATION?

What kind of books do you read? What kind of movies do you watch? Everyone loves Game of Thrones just as much as the next person, but every hour spent seeking entertainment is another hour you’re not becoming successful. If you’re serious about achieving success, then mimic what successful people do in their leisure time.

Correct Answer: Prefer Education

Successful people spend their leisure time making themselves even more successful. They read books, generally related to self-help, business, health or anything that will help them achieve their goals. They read A LOT of them too. On average, CEOs read 4 or 5 books per month.

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3. Do I WANT to be successful or Do I ASPIRE to be successful?

Success begins with aspiration. If you have no desire to be successful, then you never will be. Most people want success in life but they don’t aspire to be successful. Yes, there is a difference.

The word “want” only implies that “it would be nice to have it, but I’ll be fine if I don’t get it.” People that merely want success just stay where they’re at, waiting for it to come to them. As long as their basic needs are met, they’re comfortable with the idea of success never coming.

Correct Answer: Aspire to be Successful

The word “aspire,” on the other hand, implies that you will not accept the status quo. Regardless of how “good” life already is, you won’t stop improving until life is “great.”

Ok, I have aspirations. I’m constantly working to improve my life, but I’m still not successful. Explain that… 

Put another way, you might say you have dreams and aspirations. You’ve made up your mind that you’re going to be successful (which is great)…

But how are you going to get there? The next question might help…

4. Is it my DREAM to be successful or Is it my GOAL to be successful?

If you want to be successful it’s important to have a dream.

BUT, unfortunately having a dream is not enough.

A “dream” tends to stick with with a person long-term, night and day. Instead of merely wanting success, a dream implies that you can envision yourself attaining it.

The problem with dreams, however, is they will never become a reality without a plan behind them.

Correct Answer: Make Success Your Goal

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible

That’s where goals come in. A “goal” is like a dream with a road-map. Successful people dream first, then plan to make those dreams come true.

It’s easy to confuse dreams with goals, but it’s important to understand that they are not the same.

You’ll often hear people say “My goal is to become [fill in the blank],” when they really mean “My dream is to become [fill in the blank].”

The difference is whether or not that person has developed a strategy to become that [fill in the blank]. This is where things start to get difficult for most people.

Ok, I have dreams, aspirations, AND I have a plan to achieve success. Does this mean I’ll be successful?

Not necessarily.

Statistically, you’re much more likely to fail than you are to succeed, but don’t get discouraged.

Failure is almost necessary to achieve success.

5. Am I afraid to FAIL NOW or Am I afraid to FAIL LATER?

Most successful people fail a lot, but they remain optimistic until they achieve their goals. Take some inspiration from one of America’s most successful inventors, Thomas Edison:

Correct Answer: Be Afraid to Fail Later

Despite popular belief, failure IS an option. If you haven’t taken steps toward your dreams, then it’s quite possible that you’re just afraid to fail. But consider this:

Is it worse to try and fail or is it worse to fail because you never tried?

You fail either way. The difference is that one option results in the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and try again. The other option only ends in regret.

It may seem terrifying to fail in the present moment, but it’s much worse to look back at your life, when you’ve almost reached the end, and only have regrets that you never achieved your goals.

Ok, I’m NOT afraid of failure. I know that I’ll learn from my mistakes and keep trying. Therefore, I’m destined for success, right?

Learning from your mistakes doesn’t mean you’ll apply what you’ve learned

6. Do I LEARN or Do I APPLY?

The difference between learning and applying is like comparing hearing and listening. They’re closely related, but drastically different.

Correct Answer: Apply (what you learn)

To illustrate, let’s imagine someone who’s overweight.

  • He aspires to be fit and healthy.
  • He has made it his goal to lose 20 pounds.
  • He is not afraid to fail because he’s already failing as it is.

He is well aware that his poor eating habits and lack of exercise are the reason he’s overweight now. He has learned from his mistakes, but will that stop him from eating unhealthy again?

Considering his goal appears to be reactive to his circumstances, most likely he’ll continue eating unhealthy at some point.

However, if he’s proactive instead, then it’s possible.


According to Murphy’s Law, anything that can go wrong will go wrong. Many people take this tidbit of wisdom for granted by waiting for problems to emerge before deciding to do anything about them. Instead of proactively dealing with issues ahead of time, they’re forced to react when those issues manifest themselves.

Typically the cost, whether in time, money, or effort ends up being much greater than it would have been to take preventative measures.

Correct Answer: Be Proactive

Successful people, on the other hand, know that a little bit of insurance can go long way. They strategically think ahead to prevent issues from occurring, or at the very least, prepare themselves to handle those issues when they come. They invest their time and money to prevent the costs they’ll incur by ignoring the inevitable.

Changing your oil every three months is much cheaper than buying a new car.

Alright, I take preventative measures to avoid problems from happening. Surely, this means I’ll be successful…

You are certainly heading in the right direction. In fact, being proactive is considered the number one indicator of success. However, if you truly desire success, we have to dig a little deeper.

Changing your oil every three months is one thing, but some problems are simply out of you’re control.


Perhaps the biggest reason people don’t achieve their goals is their inability to deal with unexpected problems. It’s impossible to plan for everything. Statistically, 80% of startups fail within the first 18 months. If there was a single answer to explain this, then you wouldn’t expect such a high failure rate. We would simply learn from that mistake and move on. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. A million businesses can fail for a million different reasons.

However, each failed business does have one thing in common. They all failed because “something” wasn’t accounted for in their business plan. They each had an unexpected problem that they weren’t prepared for.

As you work toward your goal to become successful you absolutely will run into problems. Your attitude toward those problems will determine whether you’re able to persevere or not.

You can beat the odds if you perceive those problems as opportunities instead.

Correct Answer: See Opportunities

Successful people don’t see problems, they see opportunities for improvement. In this way, they’re able to resist throwing in the towel when they no longer see the light at the end of the tunnel. The word “problem” in itself has a negative connotation to it, and it’s difficult to remain optimistic about achieving your goals when negativity is always present.

Right, treat them as opportunities for improvement instead of problems. That shouldn’t be too difficult right?

If you understand that you’re fighting an uphill battle all the way to success, then having the right attitude will certainly make the fight much easier.

But are you fully convinced that you’re going to win the fight?

9. Do I have an EXTERNAL locus of control -or- Do I have an INTERNAL locus of control?

By making it this far you’ve probably realized that the way to success is not an easy path to take. It takes painstaking effort and the odds are always against you. However, by making it this far you also demonstrate a glimmer of hope, and that in itself might be the ticket you need.

Average people believe their destiny is not theirs to control. They are pushed and pulled by everything that’s thrown their way. They have what is called an external locus of control.

Correct Answer: Internal Locus of Control

Successful people, on the other hand, create their own reality. They truly believe they are the captains of their fate. They achieved success because they didn’t let anything stop them. They have an internal locus of control.

If you truly believe in yourself, beyond a shadow of a doubt, then you just might be on your way to success.

Are You on Your Way to Success?

If you answered these questions correctly, congratulations – you’re ahead of most and on your way to success! If you missed a few, hopefully this guide has helped shed light on some areas to improve in.

Are there any questions that we missed? Let us know in the comment section.


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